Today I want to ask you a question.
Married folks: What had you learned by the end of your first year of marriage that you didn’t know before you tied the knot? (Either about you, yourself or marriage in general.)
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A Question for You — Wedded Wednesday
September 8, 2010 by Johanna
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We learned that it is a MUST to combine finances. Not having them combined made our first year of marriage a bit rocky – and the second year even worse, as we worked to combine them and learned about each other’s attitudes towards money. Once we bit the bullet and got through it tho, things were much better!
By the end of our first year of marriage, I learned that I had really married the right person. On our first anniversary, we had a six week old baby, who spent most of his days and nights screaming and crying, and who required constant motion. I, of course, was losing my mind, but my husband was as steady as ever. Up to that point, I don’t think we had been tested, and since that point, we have been tested over and over, and he has been unbelievable through all of it. I sometimes wish that we had years of child-free fun when we were first married, but I wouldn’t trade it, because what I got instead was the feeling that I had married the right person, someone who would never fail me.
It seems like forever ago that we were celebrating our first year of marriage. I would say most of our learning came in years 3 and 4. Biggest learning was that it was ESSENTIAL to have God at the center of our marriage. Period. The end.
I learned of the depth of my selfish nature. It was like God was holding up a mirror to me on a daily basis as I tried walking with him and loving Aaron as he wanted me to. I failed miserably on my own strength, but the Lord was good to grow me in this area. I haven’t arrived – AT ALL – but I am thankful that He has given me a husband that is slow to anger and quick to forgive and restore. We also read through two books that first year together – Sacred Marriage and Love and Respect. He has also given us many opportunities to talk with soon to be engaged, engaged, and newly married couples about this process. Blessings!!
I learned that I didn’t know what I was getting myself into! Ha. I didn’t think anything would change because we were already living together at that point. Nothing changed on a day-to-day basis, but on an overall metaphysical basis, it definitely did. There is something about saying “my husband” that lends more gravity than “my boyfriend.”
We’d been married for about a year and a half by the time Catherine was born, and I think that it’s been the hardest thing we’ve done together so far. It’s still a learning process, of course, but it’s been hard along the way. We just talk, talk, talk all the time, because that’s the best we can do.
Um… everything! Seriously, everything.
I met him less than 5 months before we said I do. So I really knew nothing. Plus I was 19. I seriously knew nothing.
But we grew. Together. That first year was fantasitc, such a learning experience for both of us. And so much love.
I have very fond memories of that first year.
The end of the month we will celebrate our 9th year together.
Trying to think back to the end of the 1st year. Hmm. Would have to say that we learned about forgiveness and grace. But I do think that most of our marriage lessons were learned later in our marriage and even more so after children.